
Perhaps it was yet another mopey lonely moment; perhaps it was yet another bus journey after a day in the zoo that I call work; but all of a sudden I realised how much I'd always wanted an older brother.
Perhaps it's a wish for protection and unconditional lenience.
Perhaps it's another badly digested Electra complex.
But everything would have been so much less frightening with some other guide to growing up than a sneering mother.
For one thing, I would have had help learning to ride that stupid bicycle and might not have ended in the compost heap.
I would probably have had warning about lifting the latch on the pigsty at the grandparents' farm. Older brothers know that when pigs are let out they cause a lot of damage. And it would have been so much easier to build those damn tree houses than on my own, and maybe I wouldnt have had that unfortunate accident with a plank, a 9 nail and my right foot.
Because of our age difference, I left home without ever being any kind of a proper sister to my younger brother. I often feel that, perhaps, if I'd been there more, he wouldn't have taken the way out, out of loneliness and lack of help with tree houses, pigsties and compost heaps. He knew everything about the politics and economic situation of Guatemala, but he never knew how to ride a bike. I bet he wished he'd had an older sister.
I now share a house with a genius boy who knows little about tree houses but a lot about all sorts of genius stuff. He enters Lego competitions and delivers lectures in audio synthesis in universities. He watches cartoons and stays up all night writing computers programmes that no-one's even thought about yet. Thanks to him things are a little less frightening. Sometimes I can even feel the Unconditional settle in. He never sneers.
And now, if you'll excuse me, we have a Lego police station to build in the living room. The parcel arrived on Friday. It might take a couple of hours.
6 comments:
I wish I had an older brother too, or even a younger brother or sister. I got stuck with two older sisters, well actually they weren't that bad, they did teach me how to use the toilet.
I have two older brothers...would you like them?
Well, it depends... how well do they fit my idealised version of The Older Brother? Can they build tree houses? If yes, then maybe I can have one, and Boz the other one.
I guess I never really 'appreciated' my older brother when I was young. Well, we never really got on till we were adults and at least half of that is his fault.. He was never really an older brother to me - well, there were a few instances but not many. But let's not play the blame game. I didn't exactly help matters with my hair-trigger temper and willingness to always take up an opposing position to him.
We get on really well now despite some radically different ways of viewing the world. We don't argue any more. Well - not much. We know to avoid those arguments that neither of us can win. We still fight physically but that's just because we both do karate. The closeness helps there - we can really pound the shit out of each other safe in the knowledge that we'll still be brothers afterwards.
I guess he's my proper 'older brother' now in some ways, being the much more widely travelled one (and much bigger & stronger & a sanity defying pain threshhold, but that's another matter). But in others I feel like the older brother: being the smarter, more refective, more knowledgable one.
There's so little time between us (18 months) that I guess neither of us have really fitted into our supposed roles. But, not knowing any different, I like it. I wouldn't have it any other way.
Oops, sorry - didn't mean to make this all about me me me!
Um, well..
*desperately searches for a tie-in*
Think yourself lucky you didn't have an older brother, in my experience they tend to throw you out of treehouses.
Hmm, yes, well, I got my first ever black eye playing touch rugby in the park with my bros. While we didn't have a treehouse as such, they were pretty good at war games, bulding dens and they went thru a phase of thinking they were MacGyver at one point too and I came home to find that my new roller skates had been raped of their wheels so that they could 'turbo-ify' their skateboards. Oh, and one Christmas, they decided to string up my pink panther cuddly toy. He was hanged on our front door, using my new crimbo scarf.
Still want 'em y?
One time offer...Two for one....
Fishboy - I read your comment with a slightly open mouth, which is for me the usual sign of great interest. So no apology needed. I was picturing a dark haired, muscled guy as your bro, as opposed to the less macho little fishboy. ;-)
PPQ : well they sound positively endearing. And creative and resourceful, too.. you wouldn't want to do without them, I'm sure. Please keep'em.
My dad used to have all sorts of bets with his bros. One memorable one was to eat a mouse.
Raw, of course. The whole thing.
Well, he won. But he puked up his guts afterwards.
Stupid, stupid boys.
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